NEXT100 How Do You Show Up In Relationships?

Posted on : 07-11-2011 | By : Lynn | In : Spirituality

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As I drove that long trek today between San Marcos and Austin, Texas (about 35 miles one way) I switched between my favorite radio stations, listening mostly to Jeff Ward on KLBJ AM and caught a minute or two of him talking about the recent article (Huffington Post) about how most Americans just have two close friends (confidants).  Evidently on the whole, Americans have shrunk from having three confidants down to just two.

Which got me to thinking. How do “we” show up in our relationships?  How are “we” defining friendships and close friendships today?  I am very active on several social networks and I do enjoy many friendships with all kinds of people; however, I still have my close friends who I relate to mostly out of cyber space.  I’ve spent way too many years getting my psyche straightened out to not cultivate and respect the friendships I have.   How about you?

Are you someone that people can trust? Are you someone who listens well to others?  Are you someone who cares enough about creating a solid friendship that you will hang in there even when sometimes the intimacy can get really uncomfortable?  My experience has been in most of my really good friendships that at some point down the road the relationship comes to that crossroad where you have to decide how much of your heart you’re willing to put into the game or if you’d rather pack up your gear and head down the road away from all that intimacy stuff.  It’s really freaking uncomfortable when you’ve allowed enough of your true self (thoughts, feelings, opinions, beliefs) to be seen that both the pretty and the not so purty comes out.  That’s when you really find out who your true friends are and who you really want to have as a friend.

You probably have an idea of some of the characteristics you like in a friend.  Mine are pretty simple when you come right down to it: truthful, loyal, respectful, confident, loving, intelligent/wise, funny, curious and spiritual.  I like to spend my time with people who are engaged in life and who want to bring out the best in themselves and others.  I don’t have time for naysayers, although it’s quite alright for someone to feel anger and/or resentment as long as they are willing to get to the crux of what that is about for them.  I figure with all the baggage that I used to cart around in my life (at least enough to fill up two bus loads) that I’ve since released, it’s a small request to make that my close friends have worked and continue to work on themselves as well.

When I think about some of the close friends I have in my life, I feel overwhelmingly blessed. I know that they would be there for me as I would be for them and in many cases, we’ve had the opportunity to be there for each other through thick or thin.  Close friendship was not always beer and skittles let me tell you.  I had no idea how to be close with more than two or three people at a time.  And don’t even get me started on my marriage.  I am so grateful that my husband and I have grown with each other and that our relationship keeps getting richer as a result. But I guarantee you wouldn’t have wanted to witness the first two or three years of our lives together. Neither one of us had any idea at all how to be intimate day-in and day-out much less how to be in a marriage.  Turns out though we both had strong values when it came to marriage that we had no idea we had until we were in the middle of it.  Twenty-one years later I’m grateful for that strength.

W H A T E V E R!!!!! Is what I have to say with all the media hoopla about social media and social networking and our being isolated, etc.   Not all of what you read is true for many of us.   At least those of us who enjoyed a good many years figuring out how to live on this planet before technology and although we are enjoying the technology…..we’re also good at using it  instead of allowing it to use us.

How do you show up in relationships?

NEXT042 So You Think You Can Talk to Angels Now Do You?!

Posted on : 26-08-2011 | By : Lynn | In : Featured, Spirituality, Uncategorized

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Turns out there are a lot of people who think they can talk with angels and do!!  One of those people, who I believe is the “real deal” is Angel Therapy Practitioner Margo Mastromarchi. Margo was certified as an ATP by another “real deal” Angel person that you may have heard of, Doreen Virtue Ph.D.  Now for some of you who read my blogs on a regular basis, I realize that the title of this blog containing the word “angel” may have told you that this one isn’t for you—-so this blog isn’t for you—it’s  for all the rest of us!

I interviewed Margo today on Blog Talk Radio’s Hope42Day which you can hear by clicking on the link of the show’s name.   I was introduced to Margo by our mutual friend best-selling author and soul writer/speaker/teacher Janet Conner.  Janet teaches great  teleclass series offering deep soul writing teachings and in one of these classes, Janet offered each of the student’s (as part of the class) an individual session with Margo Mastromarchi.  I’ve met a lot of people in my life who are at various levels of spiritual and energetic exploration but within the first five minutes of talking with Margo on the phone I could feel that she was authentic.  In fact, while interviewing her on Hope42Day, I felt like I had taken the proverbial blue and red pill and was floating about five feet off of the ground. Margo’s a Reikki practitioner as well.

One of the bits of wisdom that Margo shared is that we all have guardian angels who are here to help us. All of us do.  Some of us “hear” our angels in different ways.  She said that angels will repeat themselves and so if you notice yourself getting the same idea over and over again to sit with it and see how it feels to take one small step towards it.  Of course, you know that the dark side of my brain was saying, “oh this is nice, but what if that’s the obsessive compulsive side of my brain?!??!  huh Margo, what about that??!” Well, here is what I’ve figured out for myself.  I’ve gotten very quiet guidance before to drive in a certain direction or talk with a certain person and when heeded, that guidance has never led me wrong. I’ve also gotten very direct and abrupt guidance such as “look up!” when I’m looking at my phone and about to run off the road.  But I’ve also asked the angels to give me direction so they do all the time.  Margo says that because we humans operate under free will, the angels will not interfere with us unless asked.  When the manic part of my brain is operating the feeling is that “I’ve gotta gotta do something or gotta gotta say something”.  I know then that “ain’t no angel talking”–at least none that I’d care to entertain.

All I know is that I am a sucker for Divine love.  Even during the typing up of the show script, I felt the angels coming through and an incredible warm peace taking over. That warm peace feels to me like Divine love but so does a very high energy that feels it can vibrate the whole room around me if I let it.  There’s a difference between that kind of high vibrational energy and mania.  The core of it is grounded is the best way I know how to describe it.  When your manic there is an edge to it and a brittleness. When you are feeling energy from the Divine, it is a natural healing energy that fits right into your being….just bringing the volume up on your energy.

One of the reasons I chose to become a Life Coach was because I loved engaging that Divine energy into helping others connect with it.  I gave up the day in and day out corporate life because I was someone who could get so distracted by the illusion of importance we humans tend to make up about our careers/jobs and the work world in general.  I used to be so right there in the thick of it. Which isn’t a bad thing but it isn’t a good thing either. It just was an “is” thing for me that I had to pay attention to and heed the guidance I was being given to find other ways of contributing to the world where I could truly make a difference without harming myself and others in the process.  Having a highly competitive attribute in my personality when run strictly by my ego, it can become a harmful thing.  Thank goodness there are people in this world who can be of the world but not in the world and run companies, like my friend, best-selling author/speaker/leader and CEO of Idea Champions, Mitch Ditkoff.  Our world sure could use more leaders of Mitch’s nature.

Anyway, the message I’d like to leave with you is that if you want to talk with angels, you can.  You  can.  Just you, right now in the privacy of your own home, office, car.  Just ask.  And listen for what answers you receive. You just may be pleasantly surprised.

Angel Wings

NEXT024 Finding the Beauty in the Buzzards’ Soaring

Posted on : 08-08-2011 | By : Lynn | In : Featured, Spirituality

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This morning while talking with  my mentor and swinging on the bench on the back deck, I looked up to see the buzzards who live in our hood taking off in a gangly looking flight catching the air streams and soaring.  If they had been kids and the air had been water, they would have been sliding.  I swear they took turns catching currents, riding them out and following each other to the next higher slip streams  above.  At some point I stopped watching them fly and didn’t look up again until 20 minutes later. You could barely make out the buzzards soaring above because they had gotten so high up that they looked like little specks of burnt paper floating away in the wind.

I asked some of my friends who partake of sailplanes and gliders how high they’ve seen buzzards fly and from what I could put together, evidently they can fly to amazing elevations. One of my friends said that when the buzzards are soaring like that, it means they’re are some good air streams for the sail planes to find.  I also looked up Buzzard Animal Medicine, but I’m not so happy with what I could find because it all seemed to focus on death and buzzards being harbingers of death; however in the ancient Egyptian times buzzards were seen as beings of divination.  It is true that buzzards are carrion and do not kill but rather eat the carcasses of dead animals; however after watching them soar like they did today, I have to find the beauty in what their medicine represents.  In many of the intuitive and astrological readings of what Planet Earth is going through right now in terms of our spiritual growth,  many of the ones that I respect and follow talk about us birthing into a new era and that during this course in time there may be many people leaving Earth (dying) because they have done what they needed to do here.

I’d much prefer to look at the Buzzards as reminding that the old ways (me/you/us) of doing things are falling away and the new ways (me/you/us) of doing things are being born and more than that, for us to take flight and soar into these new realms of being.

How about you? Where have you found beauty lately in the most unexpected places?

NEXT019 Listening to Nature

Posted on : 03-08-2011 | By : Lynn | In : Featured, Nature, Spirituality

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This week I posted a question on LinkedIn  “Do you Pay Attention to What Nature is Saying Around You?” to see who notices the clues about life that nature, albeit animals, fish, birds, plants, etc.” exhibits all around us (yes, even for you who live in the middle of a big city).  For those of us who live in the Southern States who are feeling the scorching heat this summer (day billion and five—okay 47? of heat above 100 in Texas) it is very apparent from plants to animals to fellow humans that we are all feeling the effects of the heat and drought.  The Cottonwood tree we love in our backyard is practically bald from shedding its leaves to conserve energy.  The birds all seem to get their frenzied feeding and visiting over in the cooler morning hours and take an extended siesta from about midday til just before sunset.

Meanwhile, I’ve seen some of our crazy brethren jogging in the midday heat as if it was nothing.  However, those of us who pay attention and listen to nature know that this heat and drought we’re having is worthy of our respect.

There are other, more subtle kinds of communication from nature that we can listen and look for as well.  I’ve noticed the Roadrunner family that lives in our “hood” has been more active than usual and have seen them running around all kinds of times during the day.  The last week or so they haven’t been as active but then the Cicadas have been loud and buzzing so maybe it’s dinner at your doorstep for the Roadrunners.  Last night while taking the dog for a walk around the block at about 8pm, I listened to the sounds of the Nighthawks flying overhead.   In Austin, it is pretty much guaranteed on a summer night that you will hear the call of the Nighthawk as it circles above whether you live out in the country or are walking under a tall light pole with lots of bugs flying around.  I’d always been aware of their particular “peeeent, peeent” call but had never heard the surprising sound they make when in their fly diving ritual dance until last night.  I remembered my mom and step-father sharing about the roaring sound they heard coming forth from a mating pair but was completely unprepared for what it sounds like in “real life”.  Although it was a familiar sound, it was so different from what I would normally associate with a bird that through the years I must have just been writing it off in my mind as some kind of a grumbling sound that went with a machine or a dog.  I’m glad I’d been paying attention to the rhythm of their diving dance and listening to their songs so that I could connect the dots.

Not sure what finally hearing the Nighthawk mating call means but it was fun to hear and it did make me grateful that at least some normalcy in the animal world continues in spite of the heat.

We have two little frogs who have been living around our home for a while now but one lives in the pond in the front of the house and the other one, if you can believe this, actually likes huddling up under the hot tub cover which has got to be hotter than hell.  That frog is pretty light colored while the other one tends towards green or a mottled brown depending on where he is perching.  There is a part of me that would like to bring them together; however, I have to trust that nature knows what she’s doing.  I mean wonder if they spoke a completely different language from each other?  Or what if they were each the arch enemy of the other?  I do keep my meddling ways out of their lives but I still can’t help myself from telling them about each other….just in case they understand me.

Getting back to center, getting back to being grounded and listening to nature.  Even if all that is possible for you to do where you are is look out at the clouds swirling above your head or watching what the ants are doing you will always benefit from listening to nature.


voices: Common Nighthawk


NEXT018 Shedding Your Old Skin To Make Room For the New You

Posted on : 01-08-2011 | By : Lynn | In : Featured, Nature, Spirituality

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This past weekend I ventured outside in the 100+ degree heat (47 straight days!) to check the bird feeders outside of our bedroom windows and much to my surprise looked down amongst the ivy growing wild to find a very long snake skin which had recently been shed since the last time I checked the feeders in the morning.  It was a big one!  In fact, I was so impressed with the snake skin itself that I momentarily forgot that “said snake” could have been very nearby.    I took it as a “sign” from the powers that be that they were reminding me how our old selves can be shed and actually need to be shed so that the new selves/self can grow upwards and out.

A couple of week’s ago a publicist that I work with closely sent me a book to read called, “Shapeshifting Into Higher Consciousness” by Llyn Roberts. The tag line says, “Heal and Transform Yourself and Our World with Ancient Shamanic and Modern Methods.”  Whatever the word “shapeshifting” may conjure up in your mind, Llyn Roberts has a very respected academic background that not only includes her being a prominent teacher of healing and shamanism, but additionally she holds a master’s degree in Tibetan Buddhist and Western Psychology as well as having undergone extensive training with traditional Andean healers, and has been initiated into shamanic circles by Quechua peoples in South America, and in Siberia.  The list goes on and on so suffice it to say, she is someone that you can trust has done her homework and research.  I am thoroughly loving this book and highly recommend for you to read it as well.

Above the opening of Chapter One, Llyn has a quote by Joseph Campbell which says, “We must be willing to get rid of the life we’ve planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us.  The old skin has to be shed before the new one can come.”

Today in our lives as humans, no matter what culture we come from, we are all feeling the effects of generations of choices which  have been made both good and bad.  For some of us who may be more sensitive than others, right now can feel overwhelming from many standpoints such as the heating up of the planet to the economy if you live in a place that is driven by their economy.  Llyn writes, “As the consequences of wreaking havoc with our host planet play themselves out they look dire.  It is at precisely this time that so many of us are searching for hope.   We are looking for a way out of this nightmare.  But balance will not restore overnight. Humanity has devoted centuries to cultivating societies that see themselves as separate from nature. The deeper solution demands that we live by higher values.  We must dive deeply to reshape the consciousness that got us here in the first place.  This is a journey to our higher human qualities that help us live from our hearts and minds combined. There is opportunity underlying these times of change, which indigenous cultures have long foreseen.”

I don’t know about you, but I sure felt relieved and hopeful after I read that paragraph.  And the timing of reading this paragraph along with my finding the snake skin felt like Mother Earth was tweeting me  that all of the emotional and intellectual storms that I’ve been feeling and we’ve all been going through lately are a reflection of where we are growing through to the next level.  Oddly enough, when I heard my favorite NPR newscaster telling us that the high in Austin was expected to rise to 105 today, I did not feel that usual sink of oppressive despair that I have felt for several weeks now.  I do believe that everything is moving towards our highest good.  When I can hold on to this hope, it somehow gives me room to continue growing and shedding my skin along the way.

Take a moment today to stop and reflect on the messages that Earth is sending you.  Even if you work on the 45th floor of a skyscraper in the middle of New York City, Mother Nature can reach you there as well.  Look for the clouds and birds and/or the glint of the sun off of the Hudson.  We are all related.

mitakue oyasin


NEXT017 Laughing At the Dark….Again!

Posted on : 20-07-2011 | By : Lynn | In : Featured, Heart Talks, Spirituality



Have you ever had one of those days where, in your own mind at least, everyone and everything seems to suck?  Well, I had one of those days yesterday.  And I’m someone who has done a lot of “work” on myself, spiritually, emotionally, physically and continue to do work on myself so that I can approach life and be in life at the highest level of which I am capable. Beyond not stepping on bugs.  Beyond being kind to someone when I’d rather push them out of my way.


Beyond the cave woman who curls up inside of the reptilian part of my brain.


I know that I’m clearly “having one of those days” when I immediately feel the denseness that darker energies can bring.  You know those heavy gray vests/covers that the radiologist puts across you before they take an x-ray of you? That’s how it feels inside and outside of my body.  While in that place, I become an observer of the dark thoughts swirling throughout my brain trying to convince me that it is real. That this dark time is the way that it has always been and always will be.  Almost as if some part of my unconscious has awoken like a zombie, I can hear it responding with ideas like “why am I still here in this life?”, “why do I keep trying”, etc.


It’s times like this that it helps me to laugh into the dark which is not an easy thing to do because I barely have enough energy to rouse even the idea of laughing much less the desire.  Just enough for the “H” towards the “Ha”. So I turn to those people who are close to me who share this awareness of the light and dark and are also highly sensitive.  If I’m lucky, sometimes I’ll come across someone who is also in the same place as I am and who also works as hard at showing up for life as I do because then we can really laugh into the pit of the darkness.


Yesterday it was my mom.  The more I could make her howl with laughter at the pitifulness of the place I was in, the more I dug in for more until finally all the dark was cleared out and the lighter energy could roll in like low lying clouds folding into the center of a volcano.  There’s nothing quite like being able to say to someone, “I hate that I do so many good things in life and NOBODY KNOWS” and have them laugh and laugh and laugh with you.


This morning when I spoke with my mentor I was reminded that when the dark energies invade my space I can ask them/it to leave.  And I know this but there is something wickedly good about laughing the dark out of existence as well.  It’s all an illusion.

The energies that we take in and give off are amazingly powerful so learning how to recognize and deal with them are sometimes a matter of life and death but often times just a matter of enjoying life or falling for the charade.


Laughing when you’re in that dark place seems almost like an impossibility…and I say almost because I’ve experienced laughing into the dark many times so I know that it is possible.  But if you can even allow one little wheel of the laughter roller coaster into your consciousness, the other wheels will fall into place and before you know it your laughing your way out of the tunnel and up into the light.  You can imagine how my mom and I howled into fits of unstoppable laughter while as we were talking giant rain clouds were moving into Austin and popping up on Facebook were recounts from friends about all the rain they were getting while we in our rain-starved neighborhood got nary a sprinkle.  The situation just seemed to perfectly illustrate the desperate place I was feeling about life that morning and thank God for some reason, it was absolutely hilarious to us both.


Remember: when you’re in that dark place, it is just an illusion.  Laughter is one way to dissolve the density.  Even if you have to fake laughing until you’re really laughing, do it…that in itself can be funny and start gathering friends around you who can also laugh into the dark.