The Lovely Dilemma of Dissonance

Posted on : 04-04-2007 | By : Lynn | In : Career Stuff, Uncategorized


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Have you ever found yourself in a situation where your actions are not in alignment with your values?  I feel like once again I’m being tested by forces greater than I grok to stand behind what I value in life through my actions.  I really value exploring life and all of its meanings as deeply as I can so that I can act according to my beliefs and values.  The lovely dilemma I am facing now is to acknowledge, embrace and enjoy the gifts that my clients and I share because of being willing to talk about the spiritual aspects of life and its effects in both our business and private lives. At the same time, I’m being told by the radio station that I’ve been apprenticing and hosting pilot shows for over the past year that they do not want to have anymore shows focused on spiritual discussions.

One of the benefits of getting older that I don’t remember learning until now is that you get to this wonderful point in your life where you just don’t have time to put up with your own b.s. much less anyone else’s!!  For instance, had the dilemma I just shared with you happened ten or fifteen years ago, it would have sent me into a downward spiral that I would have reveled in for days. Today, I am able to feel the disappointment and perhaps a wee bit of anger and then dust myself off and honestly say, “if not this then something better”. 

What I am realizing in a very short period of time is more of how I WANT to spend my time in life and less of what I DON’T want.  I love working with people who are constantly looking for new ways to discover life and enjoy themselves.  I love helping people design road maps for their success.  Consequently, when the radio station made known their knew direction, I found myself for a short bit trying to figure out ways that I could conform and then finally taking a second to listen to the small voice inside of me that was saying, “Hey, I want to talk about spiritual stuff, so let’s go find a place where we can!”. 

I ‘m in the process of reading, “The Amazing Power of Deliberate Intent” by Esther and Jerry Hicks, one of my favorite quotes is, “Remember, a belief is only a thought that you keep thinking.”   In your own lives, what beliefs or thoughts do you keep thinking? How do your actions align with your values?  Are you willing to embrace the lovely dilemmas and hallucinatory dissonances that occur in your lives and use them to focus you on where you want to go?

If not now, when?

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