Posted on : 13-06-2012 | By : Lynn | In : Communication, Heart Talks
Tags: authenticity, in-process, transparency
You may be thinking, “why would I want to help anyone when I’m in the trenches?!” Well, because when we’re honest about how we’re feeling and what we’re thinking while we’re in the midst of crawling out of the trenches of life whether it be money related, work related, family related, etc….we help ourselves and we help others when we are transparent. More than likely, there are others in the trenches with you—you just might not see each other because your walls are too high.
Recently I shared some of my experience of being in a financial trench. It was a yucky place to “be” in and felt oh so familiar to me. I could not get traction to climb up and out of the muddy walls, I could not stand the smell of it and I found myself wanting to just bury myself further into the very bottom in hopes that I would find a trap door to disappear through. What was shocking to me is that I have not felt this way in such a long time, but boy the minute I stumbled into that trench, all the old feelings were right there with me. The good news is that today I have tools to help me weather the storm of those negative feelings of guilt and shame. I realized there were phone calls I could make to remove charges and actions I could take to create a flow of income.
It’s kind of a schizophrenic world we live in right now in many ways (is that an oxymoron?). On the one hand, we’ve created this fantastic system of being able to communicate with each other all over this world but on the other hand, we are cautioned about the digital footprint that will follow us for the rest of our lives. Somewhere in the mix, finding our authentic being and embracing ourselves will create the stairs to lead us out of the trenches if we happen to stumble into them. Being authentic means to be real about who we are and what we think and feel….even in the dark times.
A friend shared a question lately on “Ask Coach Lynn” about why she began her day so well yet ended it feeling so darkly. I’m pretty sure many others can relate to her question and how she was feeling. By her being willing to share and ask for help, she was not only helping herself but helping all the others who were feeling the same way.
What will you be “real” about today?