DINK #307 Remembering Joy In Your Life

Posted on : 12-02-2011 | By : Lynn | In : Uncategorized

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Have you ever seen the metaphysical movie, “The Secret” which was released in 2006 as a movie-web sensation?  The very first cuts of the movie included Esther Hicks/Abraham (Law of Attraction) and for many of us, this was the first time to really have a beautiful visual as well as auditory lesson about attracting what we want into our lives.  For those of us who are into such things, groups sprung up all over the world to discuss and explore the qualities of attracting and manifesting what we wanted into our lives.  I even interviewed one of the speakers of “The Secret”, James Ray, during my first live radio interview show on KOOP 91.7 FM back in 2006.

For those of you who may not know the basic premise of manifesting and attracting what you want in your life, I’ll take a quote from Esther and Jerry Hicks’ “Teachings of Abraham in their book, “The Amazing Power of Deliberate Intent” which sums it down to this:

“When you ask, it is given. It is always given. It is given every time. No exceptions…When you or anyone or anything asks, it is given.”

I have had the experience in my life of people, places or things that I have had a strong desire for appearing out of seemingly thin air.  Before I met my husband, I had very few long-term relationships and my definition of long-term had been nine months tops!  When I met him he had just moved to Austin from New York and we just happened to have the same friend who just happened to work at the same place that I did.  Twenty-one years later and we’re still creating our story together.  When we found the home that we’ve been in since 1996,  we stumbled upon it almost by accident because a co-worker of my husband had accepted an out of town job and needed to sell his home.  When we went to look at it, there were many decorating type things that we wanted to change but the basics of the land and a pool was what we had both dared to want for a very long time.  We sold the home we were in at the time, and bought this new home within THREE DAYS.  My list goes on and on but what I tend to forget was how effortlessly these things came into my life…as if by divine intervention.

I don’t know about you but when it comes to  assessments or following through on exercises that are supposed to produce a certain result, I tend to be one of those people who will “break” or severely stretch the parameters.  Suffice it to say that when it came to participating in Law of Attracting groups and trying to manifest what I wanted into my life—like the leaders and/or participants of the groups seemed to be manifesting what they wanted into their lives—-I just never was to be able to do it.  I went through several stages where I felt disenchanted, disillusioned, skeptical, depressed and maybe just a little bit angry.  In whatever way it is that my brain processes learning, I felt like trying to “manifest” and “attract” like I thought everyone else was doing it—was causing me to lose the great connection that I had with a Higher Power of my understanding.  I used to pride myself in being able to float a variety of different beliefs in my consciousness simultaneously, but this period of time in my life felt like I had walked into a gravity chamber of lead that didn’t leave anything floating in the air for consideration much less manifesting.

Overtime, I’ve been rebuilding and reconnecting the relationship with that Higher Power and rekindling the belief that I am a human being who lives a life at choice.  Everything and everyone that comes into my life is a result of a decision or series of decisions that I have made.  As I’ve written in previous blogs, I am making a conscious choice not to entertain the usual-suspects of negative thoughts when they come into my mind. Instead, as soon as I recognize them I STOP them and ask myself if the thoughts are useful or helpful to me and if they are not then I ask myself what, if any, action I need to take.

For the past few weeks I’ve been working with a good friend who is a fellow Coach and Master Mind member five days a week for 20 minutes which is helping me to carve out some new coaching programs and really get intentional about coaching and the kind of clients who I want to attract.  Almost as effortless as a swan swimming through the water, great ideas about the kind of coaching I could offer and new clients appeared in my life.  But as soon as my friend began talking about manifesting, there was that lead balloon again.  I couldn’t even manifest a parking place at school the next day!  My friend had this same dilemma as well and we soon realized that part of our issue was because somehow in our minds when we heard or thought about manifesting, it immediately became a chore for us.  It was no fun. There was no joy in the process of manifestation.

We made a pact to create a “manifesting journal” but only create in it when our heart was full of joy. I have since shared with three friends and I am now going to share this idea with you.

1.) Get yourself a journal that fits well with your personality.  I have a very simple spiral notebook (MR is the brand) that I bought at Target that I love because of the hard cover and the lining of the paper.

2.) Each page is for one thing, person, place, idea, etc. that you want to manifest in your life.  That one thing may take up several pages, but keep your focus on one thing that you want to manifest for each page.

3.) Remember how you want to feel.  Most of the current day sages who talk about the Law of Attraction, remind us to pay attention to how we want to “feel”.  In manifesting what you want in your life, it’s not enough just to visualize it–you have to feel like you know you will feel with that person, place, thing in your life.  Remember when you were a kid, and you could create a magical experience for yourself almost from thin air?  I sure could, about the most simplest of things like being excited to go to the DQ after our mom dragged us to the base commissary and BX when she would reward us with a corn dog and chocolate shake.  Those shopping days were magical to me!!

4.) Let go of the “how”.  I think our adult selves trumps our child selves when it comes to manifesting sometimes because we trudge into our dreams and feelings of joy with all the hows, and buts and what ifs.  All of those concerns are important for living; however, all we’re doing with our journal is having fun and letting that kid part of ourselves out to play and have fun with this.  Remember that for many of us, this whole manifesting thing became drudgery because instead of going with the flow and remember the joy—we kept trying to figure it all out.  I know I’ve had dreams of flying that perfectly illustrate these feelings for me. In some of my flying dreams, I’ll effortlessly take off in flight and be way up high soaring along until I realize how effortlessly I’m soaring and then I lose my height and sometimes I have to land and then run several times and jump up to fly again.  Go ahead, let yourself fly. Have fun.

This is your journal so no one is going to be looking at it…however you decide to communicate to yourself how you want to feel in your life when you’re living your best life—go for it.  You may want to write, draw, paint, collage, the sky really is the limit.  Enjoy yourself.  And if/when that part of your brain shows up that just has to KNOW HOW you are possibly going to get anything that you desire into your life, tell it kindly to bug off for right now because this is your very own journal to help you to remember how to have joy in your life.

Now go do it and have fun!

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DINK #141 When Life Feel’s Beige…Throw in Some Colors!

Posted on : 10-08-2010 | By : Lynn | In : Uncategorized

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Today I joined the beautiful host of KOOP’s (91.7FM) “The Idea Lounge”, Khotan Shahbazi Harmon for a lively conversation around self-esteem, creativity, depression, feeling stuck. Seems counter-intuitive that our discussion would have been lively, but it was. For the past few months I’ve experienced what I would call the “beige” colors of life and have been surfing along playing with the various hues of beige to see what the gifts that this stuck time brings.

Beige for me means that life is coasting along at a fairly non-bumping rate, which is good, but that there haven’t been many times of vivid purples and rose colored glasses. Conversely, there haven’t been too many deep black or at least indigo blue dips either. If feelings had colors, then beige would be the color of feeling stuck. By the way, I don’t think there is such a thing as stuck. Sure, there absolutely is the feeling of being stuck, but we’re dynamic molecules in agreement to coalesce together to make a human so all parts of us are constantly changing all the time. I think that the feeling of being stuck may be a good sign that actually there are a whole bunch of molecules standing at the station waiting to make a huge transit into another way of being. In other words, we’re right on the precipice of becoming someone new. Or at least having a new perspective.

When life becomes beige for you, here’s some tips that I have tried that may help you to swirl in some primary colors to add some zing while you’re in process:

* If you can swim and have access to a pool, go swim. Swim enough laps that you get into the flow of swimming and can let your mind wander. If possible, find a pool that you can swim outside so you can watch the sun’s rays in the water. If you don’t swim or you don’t have access to a pool, go for a walk. But try to go for a vigorous walk with your arms and legs moving.

* Listen to music. With today’s advances in technologies you can find all kinds of ways to listen to music. You can type in the name of a band or song on www.youtube.com and download it right to your computer without buying it. Public radio stations also post their song lists for the day so go check that out for tunes that may be new to you. Keep listening to different music till you find a song so beautiful or so electric that you want to keep playing it over and over. That may just be a sign that you’ve hit the right frequency of what you’re needing to hear.

* If you’re a writer, write. Stretch yourself. None of this, “well, I’m a writer but I don’t write all the time or that much” Give yourself a goal of writing or blogging 100 pages in 100 days. It’ll get the juices flowing for sure. If you don’t write, then read. Find something that you can read that will have you so immersed that you will be surprised how much time flies by.

* Clean your house, apartment, car. Seriously, this will get all kinds of things moving in your mind and heart. Organize your closet. Organize your drawers. What about the “junk” drawer in the kitchen. Set a kitchen timer or your watch for 20 minutes and don’t do anything else but clean.

Those are just a few of the things that I do to help myself when life is feeling beige. I have many more. If you’re disabled, please don’t let this discourage you. Contact me off line and we can brain storm some ideas of how you can get moving too.

One last thing, there is a period in the beige when it is important for us to just be with the beige and accept it. Breathe in and out and know that this will pass too. Be at peace with the calm. Take in the rest. If after a period of time of understanding and accepting the beige you’re ready to move on, then try some of the tips I’ve shared.

Remember acceptance is the answer to all that ails us.

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