Posted on : 03-12-2011 | By : Lynn | In : Mind Fodder
Tags: Distinctionary, Thomas J. Leonard
Thomas Leonard, Founder of CoachU (along with many others), Coachville and many things Coaching….created a “distinctionary” (can be found at Coachville.com) that takes a look at two similar words and explores them to find which one goes a little deeper for a richer experience.
Here is the one for Fulfillment vs. Satisfaction:
Satisfaction is the sensation that you feel when your needs are met. You’re satisfied; you’re satiated. Fulfillment, however, is the deeper, more soul-oriented feeling that one experiences when they are expressing their values, as in being themselves. When an artist is creating, they often experience fulfillment in their work. However, when the artist is getting appreciation, which perhaps may be a need, they’re going to feel satisfied but not fulfilled. Both are good, but fulfillment is a richer experience.
I realized when I was talking with my mentor on Friday morning listing the top things that I’m putting my attention to (trust me, you don’t want me to list them here because it might make your head spin how much I do….) and I knew that blogging was something that I never want to give up. It gives me such a sense of fulfillment to blog because it’s a way for me to help you readers feel connected and if not understood completely at least that someone is hopping up beside you to let you know you matter (or hey I’m good for a laugh or two sometimes at least!). In spite of the fact that I don’t get paid to blog, I have to write to get the ideas and feelings out of my head and on to the page or the ideas will just keep piling into my brain taking up space.
When we looked at my blog talk radio show (www.blogtalkradio.com/hope42day) I realized that most of the time I feel satisfied doing a show but I don’t always feel fulfilled. Now I’m not quite sure why that is except I think it may have something to do with allowing other people to give their opinion to me about how I could ramp my show up to the “next level” (e.g. weekly shows) or solicit corporate sponsorship that would allow me to have some paid help etc. That all ends up feeling like a full-time job to me pretty quickly, not that I wouldn’t want to have a radio show that I could get paid to do full-time but I’m pretty realistic when it comes to this and know that I’d be getting paid part-time to do an over-time job. Not too sure that is something I’m interesting in doing. For right now, I’m okay with just feeling satisfied with my show as it is on my own time schedule.
I think fulfillment is something that comes from deep inside of us and so, for me, it’s got a spiritual nature as well. It’s kind of like when you do or say something nice for somebody and get filled with that all-over glow inside and out. Who doesn’t want to feel that way? I sure love it?!? Makes me want to keep on finding ways to be kind to others just to get that “soul-hit”. Conversely, I feel satisfied after cleaning the house spotless. I love nothing more than to clean every dust particle off of every surface and floor, organize things, neaten things up, add a spice or flair of decoration and then walk from room to room admiring my work. That gives me a huge feeling of satisfaction but I definitely don’t feel fulfilled.
How about you? What gives you a great inner sense of fulfillment?