And another good thing about getting older–you just don’t have time to futz around anymore.  I mean, really we never have had time but in our minds we thought we did or we hypnotized ourselves into believing we had time.

The reason that getting older is a good thing is because if you’ve already done some kind of work (therapy, group sessions, massive reading, etc.) to become aware then it is more than likely that you will become willing to do the real “inner” action work of being honest about who you are and what you are all about as best as you can understand it and then you can blow that veil of neurosis away.   My understanding of being “neurotic” is that it is the action of avoiding the truth about what is happening to us, within us or around us to the extent that we then become anxious and/or create social phobias through our avoidance behavior.  I don’t know about you but after years of using various forms of neurotic behavior, facing the truth seems a helluva lot easier in the long run!!

In my last post, I shared about a situation that happened with me in a class where I am having the opportunity to re-live some of my worst nightmares of feelings of insecurity and shame because of all kinds of saboteur behavior coming out as a result of my not being very good at the skills this class requires.  The good news about all of this is that 24 hours later, I can see where my limitations are AND at the same time where my strengths are as well.  Suffice it to say that making small precise models with my hands is definitely NOT my forte.  I also see some great material for a future comedy skit as well.  Especially since now when I re-do the project that I didn’t hand in correctly, finish up the rough model that I’ve been working on for weeks and get the final model together the coup de grace is that all the students get to show and explain each of our models not only to our class but also the Dean and other visitors.  It is not with humility that I tell you that my models look like someone in third grade made them. God bless my little heart.  I’m also grateful that even though I had been feeling pretty low about what I have produced thus far, I have been able see the good work that my fellow students have done and cheer them on to greater heights.

It’s nice when one can come from the place of being expansive instead of being really restricted.

So this is my appeal to anyone on the fence between neurotic avoidance behavior and cutting to the chase.  In my book, it is so worth it to grab all the resources and support you can to be able to cut to the chase and learn the bloody lesson that life has delivered to you when it arrives at your doorstep.  I promise the rewards will be so much bigger than you can ever imagine. Besides, in my life anyway whatever lesson I avoid will always keep coming back around until I face them and learn what they have to teach me.

What will you cut to the chase about today?