Positively Speaking

Posted on : 22-08-2006 | By : Lynn | In : Communication, Uncategorized


Much has been written and talked about “Affirmations”.  Every day we are assuaged with negativity from our radios, televisions, newspapers, internet, the way we treat each other, and from our own brains.  Some of us have extremely sensitive nervous systems and “feel” all this negativity on all of our conscious levels, some–not so sensitive–but still receiving the negativity.  Any way we look at it, countering all the negativity with affirmations can only help us. 

 With all that said, I can still be a curmudgeon when it comes to positivity and affirmations.  I’ve investigated, participated in, conducted, have been part of therapy, groups, and all kinds of explorations that utilize affirmations so I know that they can be helpful. Yet, I can still be skeptical when it comes to saying things like, “I attract Prosperity, Joy, Love and Compassion to my Coaching business and I give prosperity, joy, love and compassion through my Coaching business.”  This is the phrase I said to myself over and over today during about 20 minutes of my run today. I don’t know if it’s working yet, but my heart feels calm and I feel confident. 

 I know that NLP therapy teaches that what we say out loud, our brain believes even if “we know” we really don’t “mean it” when we say to ourselves “I suck”!  I learned years ago to say, “Cancel, Cancel” when I said a negative thing about myself out loud.  It must have worked in some small way, because I do have so many people and things in my life to be grateful for today. 

Years ago a good friend of mine had a cassette full of affirmations with a man’s voice saying, “You are wonderful” and a woman’s voice saying, “I am wonderful” and so on and so forth. We put the cassette into her car stereo and turned it up really loud to listen to as we laid out in the sunshine.  Several minutes passed when one of us looked up to witness that several, I’m talking 8-10; neighborhood cats were being lulled to our vicinity from the positive voices coming from my friend’s car.  Maybe the cats were being hypnotized by the melody of the voices or perhaps they were pleased to hear humans talking so positively. Whatever the case, it made an impression on me. Music does soothe the savage beast, even when that “music” is in the forms of words and the tone of our voice. 

Think of a positive affirmation that you could give yourself today.  Think of something that you would really like to attract into your life, Peace? Love? Joy? Prosperity? Now say it in the positive tense.  Say it as being true to now, that you already have the joy, peace, prosperity that you are seeking. Say it with a positive up tone in your voice and push your voice out from your belly.  Let go of any suspicions that you may harbor around affirmations and if they work or if they don’t work.  It’s all good if for just a moment today, we can talk positively to ourselves. 

Try it!! You may be delighted. 



Comments (2)

Thanks for this great post on affirmations! Increasing our positive self-talk directly effects our emotions, attitudes, and behaviors. Positive thinking and optimism are also linked to a variety of health benefits including: decrease in stress hormones, enhanced immune function, and reduced risk of coronary artery disease. In other words, affirmations do make a difference in our lives. Negative thinking becomes a habit and it takes repitition of the new positive thoughts to create a new habit.

Could you recommend any specific resources, books, or other blogs on this specific NLP topic? Yes! RIchard Bandler is one of the co-founders of NLP and has a couple of new books out (last year and this year). Google him. I also interviewed him during a webcast last year at http://www.coachingcommons.org. If you go to that site, you can read some of the correspondence back and forth and discussions about NLP.!

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